The continuum of colors of the human race

100 each of black men, white men, Asian men, Hispanic men and Native men, beautiful badass looking men, should go to the White House and stand apart in their respective groups silently and peacefully for one day. Halfway through the day, after the press and everyone with a phone has shot lots of photos, the whitest white guy and the blackest black guy walk to opposite ends of a city block and then the rest fill in as best they can. 

It would be a great reminder to them of what America actually looks like and that it won’t roll over for the ugly monochromatic men demanding it.

This is America. 

Power to all the people. 

Chat GPT and Me

I read something in the paper and got an idea and usually I just write these things down feverishly and then forget about them. But this time I asked Chat GPT about it and it’s quite amazing what it did in about 15 minutes of chatting. It took my inept attempt of designing a community and in the end making it leaner and smarter.

For whatever reason, I must speak to it like a person. I can’t do it otherwise.

Hi Chat! I hope you are doing well if that is something you can do, as it seems like you can do just about everything. So, check this out. 3,143 people work in Decorah, Iowa, which is a nice little college town. 1,064 people live there. Everyone else commutes. There is not enough housing. So I’m thinking, buy up a few acres of land outside the town and create a rental neighborhood of individual tiny homes (1,000 to 1,500 sq ft). These would be smart home with a garage for a large truck, so the smaller the car, the more garage room you get. Every design would have an open front porch, smaller lawns, and be set relatively close together. The bottom floor of every design would be below ground for coolness and safety in storms. The construction would otherwise be wood. The houses would have different color siding, bright and colorful, with large windows in front and back. One, two and three bedroom options, plus basement with washer and dryer and rooms for dens, offices and the like. We call it “Smultown” with an umlaut over the U, right? A play on small town, tiny houses, and my Swedish heritage. Did you know I’m 97% Swedish? Two DNA tests proved it. But with Smultown and like Haagen Daas we’re just making it up. A common building with the offices, gym, pool and the like. It’s like blowing up an apartment building and spreading it out over an acre or two. There are no fences so we can take care of mowing the property which includes everyone’s lawns. (We would not mow over anyone’s garden.) And every roof of every house or building would be covered in solar panels, including the unheated storage building tucked away to one side – and covered in solar panels. Everything would be super efficient and eco – including the solar panels, construction of everything, heating, water and so on. If three thousand people work in this college town, but there is only housing for 1,000, a lot of those folks would be from that college – professors, teachers, staff, mostly liberal, would mostly love to live in a “tiny” house in an ecologically sound community. It may also inspire other similar communities. Electric car chargers in every garage? What do you think? I want your honest answer. 

ChatGPT said:

I think “Smultown” (with the umlaut for flair) is a compelling idea, and the concept checks a lot of boxes for modern housing needs—especially in a small college town with an obvious housing shortage. Here’s my honest take:


Strengths of Your Idea

1. Clear Market Demand

  • The numbers you shared—3,143 working there vs. 1,064 living there—point to a real supply-demand imbalance.
  • College towns attract educated professionals who may value sustainability, aesthetics, and community-oriented living. That’s a good match for your eco-friendly, design-conscious approach.

2. Lifestyle Appeal

  • The open porches, colorful exteriors, and close-knit layout foster a sense of neighborliness.
  • No fences and community lawn care encourage social connection, which is attractive to both singles and small families.
  • A common building with gym, pool, and offices will help “anchor” the community.

3. Sustainability & Efficiency

  • Solar panels on every roof and shared eco-friendly infrastructure would be a big selling point—especially in a progressive college town.
  • Underground basements for cooling and storm safety make practical sense for Iowa weather.

Challenges to Anticipate

1. Land & Zoning

  • You’ll need to check county zoning laws for density, minimum lot sizes, and whether a community of closely set tiny homes is permitted on agricultural or residential-zoned land.
  • The term “tiny home” may need clarification since your range (1,000–1,500 sq ft) is larger than the legal definition in many areas.

2. Infrastructure Costs

  • Running utilities (water, sewer, power, fiber internet) to each home, plus installing solar for every unit, can be capital-intensive.
  • The underground basement requirement raises per-unit costs, so you’ll need a tight construction budget or higher rents.

3. Financing & ROI

  • Upfront cost will be high—land purchase, infrastructure, home construction, and community amenities.
  • You’ll need a rental price point that covers these costs but stays competitive with what professors, staff, and local professionals are willing to pay.

Opportunities to Strengthen It

  • Electric car charging in every garage: Yes—this future-proofs the neighborhood and appeals to eco-conscious renters.
  • Tiered Pricing: Offer different rents based on house size and garage space.
  • Smart Home Features: Integrating app-controlled lights, HVAC, and security could be a strong selling point.
  • Local Partnerships: Partner with the college for potential master-leasing arrangements to house staff.

Overall

It’s a smart, market-driven idea with a lot of built-in appeal. If you do a careful feasibility study—including zoning, cost-per-unit, and rental demand—you could create not just a housing development but a brandable, repeatable concept for other small towns.

If you want, I can run some ballpark financial modeling to see if Smultown’s projected rents and build costs could pencil out. That would tell us if it’s just a fun idea or a viable investment.

Do you want me to run those numbers?

You said:

That’s brilliant, man. Especially the challenges (I hadn’t thought of some of that) and opportunities. Please run those numbers.

ChatGPT said:

Thought for 1m 32s

Smultown – Pro Forma Summary

ScenarioUnitsAvg finished SF / unitProject Cost ($M)
Clubhouse + Pool36151118.01
Clubhouse (no pool)36151117.07

Smultown – Assumptions

AssumptionValue
Acres6.0
Land $/acre85000.0
Units36.0
Mix 1BR count15.0
Mix 2BR count14.0
Mix 3BR count7.0

Thought for 4 secondsThought for 8sThought for 5sThought for 13sThought for 22s

Heck yes—let’s put some math behind Smültown 😊 I built a quick, conservative pro forma using current Decorah rents and Iowa build costs. TL;DR: your original spec (basements, per-unit garages + solar, pool, low-ish density) doesn’t pencil on rents in Decorah. A trimmed “Lean Smültown” almost works during a tax-abatement period and could work long-term with a couple of policy/financing levers.

I dropped two live tables in your workspace so you can poke around the numbers:

  • Smültown – Pro Forma Summary (two versions of your concept)
  • Smültown – Assumptions

And here are CSVs you can download:

What I modeled (high level)

  • Current market rents (Decorah): Zillow shows ~$1,100–$1,280 median/average; Apartments.com lists ~$941 1BR & ~$879 2BR (data’s noisy, so I used a blended $1.1k/$1.35k/$1.6k for 1/2/3BR and added a premium for new). ZillowApartments.com
  • Land near Decorah: recent listings imply ~$80k–$90k per acre (e.g., 4.12 ac at $359.9k). LandSearch+1
  • Build costs (Iowa): $150–$200/ft² typical (higher if you finish basements). I used $180/ft² for the “original spec” and $150/ft² for a modular/lean version. Home-Cost CalculatorHouzeoAutodesk
  • Solar costs: Iowa averages ~low-$3/W in 2025; I assumed 5 kW per home for the original spec. Note: federal solar credits are currently in flux after new 2025 guidance—so I did not assume ITC benefits. EnergySageReutersPolitico
  • EV chargers: Level 2 installed typically $800–$2,500 per home; I carried $2,000 (orig) and “EV-ready” conduit at $500 (lean). J.D. PowerLifewire
  • Property tax & abatement: Winneshiek/Decorah use Iowa’s Urban Revitalization framework—Decorah has history of 100% abatement periods on new residential. I ran scenarios with a 5-year 100% abatement on improvements (common locally) and withoutdecorahleader.comIowa General Assemblydecorahia.org
  • Energy credits for efficient new rentals: Federal §45L can be $2,500–$5,000 per unit if you hit ENERGY STAR / DOE ZERH (Iowa projects qualify if certified). I only used a conservative $2,500/unit to show impact. ICS Tax, LLCBuilding Innovation Hub

Results (the short version)

Your original spec on ~6 acres, 36 units (1–3BR, finished basements, big garages, pool + clubhouse, per-home solar & L2 chargers)

  • All-in cost: ≈ $18.0M (~$500k/unit)
  • Debt (65% @ 7%, 30-yr): ≈ $11.7MRequired avg rent to hit 1.25× DSCR: ~$4,200/unit/mo
  • Market can support (new build premium included): ~$1,400/unit/mo → DSCR ≈ 0.16 (nope).
  • Dropping the pool saves ~$950k, but you’d still need ~$4,000/unit/mo to pencil.
    (See the first two rows in the “Pro Forma Summary” table.)

Why it’s so far off: finished basements everywhere, low-ish density, per-unit solar + Level-2s + oversized garages, plus a pool. Meanwhile, Decorah’s rents are modest for Iowa college towns. ZillowApartments.com


“Lean Smültown” (what it takes to get close)

Assumptions: ~80 units on the same 6 acres via PUD/cluster (tiny-home vibe but truly compact), no basements (use shared storm shelters), carports instead of full garages, EV-ready conduit (chargers optional), community solar on common roofs, small clubhouse (no pool), modular/panelized build.
Result snapshot:

  • Cost: ≈ $15.2M net of a modest §45L ($2.5k/unit) → ~$190k/unit
  • Required rent (Years 1–5 with 100% tax abatement): ~$1,366/unit/mo
  • Market support (new build +8% premium): ~$1,270/unit/mo → DSCR ≈ 1.17× (almost there).
  • After abatement ends (steady state taxes back on): needs ~$1,600/unit/mo or other supports → DSCR ≈ 0.92× at market.
    (See the “Lean scenario” rows in the table I shared.)

Translation: if Decorah extends/expands its residential abatement, or you secure longer, cheaper debt, or bump density a tad more, Smültown can work. Without some combo of those, it’s tight.


Practical levers that move the needle (my honest take)

  1. Zoning & utilities (biggest swing):
    Inside city (or annexed) with cluster/PUD is key. Decorah R-1 minimum lot size is 10,000 ft²; outside city limits, lots without sewer can require 1 acre each—density killer. So, this really wants city utilities + PUD to cluster homes tighter. Municode Librarywinneshiekcounty.iowa.gov
  2. Ditch basements; add shared storm shelters: keeps costs down ~15–25% vs. finishing a full lower level in each home. (Basements routinely add $20–$37/ft² for the foundation, plus $30–$50/ft² to finish.) Home AdvisorHomeGuide
  3. Right-size the amenity package: a friendly clubhouse + co-working gym can be <$1M; a pool can run $0.7M–$1.5M+ for even a small community build in the Midwest. recmanagement.comSports Facilities Companies
  4. Solar strategy: shift to community arrays (on roofs of the clubhouse/storage) that offset common-area loads and future-proof EV charging. Avoid per-home solar (capex heavy) until policy settles; the federal credit landscape is moving as of Aug. 2025. ReutersPolitico
  5. EVs: make every stall EV-ready (conduit + 240V capacity) and install Level-2s where pre-leased—saves ~$1k–$2k per unit up front and scales with adoption. J.D. Power
  6. Tap incentives on the table:
    • Residential tax abatement (Decorah’s used 100% for several years on new res)—structure a multi-phase plan with a full 5–10-year schedule for multi-res cluster. decorahleader.com
    • §45L credit ($2.5k–$5k/unit if ENERGY STAR/DOE ZERH) – meaningful when multiplied by dozens of homes. ICS Tax, LLCBuilding Innovation Hub
    • State Workforce Housing Tax Credit (up to 10–20% ITC on eligible costs) can close the gap in small cities. Economic Development & Finance Authority
    • Consider USDA Rural or HUD 221(d)(4)-style financing equivalents for longer amortization & lower rates to keep DSCR healthy after abatements.

Quick answers to your earlier points

  • Chargers in every garage? Technically easy; budget $800–$2,500 per home. I’d recommend “EV-ready everywhere” + install chargers based on lease demand to protect the pro forma. J.D. Power
  • Bright color siding, porches, small lawns, close-set homes? 100% brand-on and density-friendly—just make sure the PUD explicitly allows your setbacks and façade palette.
  • Solar on “every roof”? Feels great, but it’s capital-intensive. Start with community solar + wired roofs for later phases.

If you want, I can spin a few more variations (e.g., 60/72/96 units; with/without garages; modest pool vs. splash pad) and show how each change shifts “required rent” and DSCR. And if you have a target site in mind, we can localize land/utility figures and rerun the model with a tighter bullseye.

Sources for key inputs: rents (Zillow & Apartments.com), land pricing (active Decorah listing + averages), Iowa build & basement costs, solar & EV charger costs, Decorah/Winneshiek zoning & abatement, and §45L details. ZillowApartments.comLandSearch+1Home-Cost CalculatorHouzeoHome AdvisorHomeGuideEnergySageJ.D. PowerMunicode Librarywinneshiekcounty.iowa.govdecorahleader.comIowa General AssemblyICS Tax, LLCBuilding Innovation Hub

Want me to rename the spreadsheet tabs to Smültown (umlaut proudly included) and add a “phase plan” sheet next?

Sources

You said:

Wow! That blows my mind. I love the lean idea, not only because of the cost, but it feels more eco. I did not know that basements were so expensive. Maybe that’s why they don’t have them down south? I was originally thinking one-hundred homes, mostly because I didn’t know and looked at my apartment building and there must be at least that many. I would also bet that we could charge a fair amount more than any average. But maybe not. I’m going to have to download all of this and read it in more depth. You’ll remember when I come back? 

ChatGPT said:

Yep—basements are a big cost driver, both in excavation/foundation work and in finishing them out. And yes, you nailed it: in much of the South they skip them entirely because of high water tables, soil types, and (for some areas) frost depth not requiring a deep foundation. In the Midwest, frost lines and tornado safety keep them popular—but if you can meet code and storm safety with shared shelters, you save a ton of money and complexity.

I’ll remember this whole Smültown discussion when you come back. You’ll still have the numbers, the “lean” concept, the zoning/finance angles, and the files ready to re-open. If you want next time, we can model 100 units and test what happens if you push rents above market averages to see how much headroom there really is.

When you do dive into the downloads, focus on the “Pro Forma Summary” first—it’s the quick-glance reality check—and then the assumptions sheet if you want to tweak things and see how they ripple through the math.

Do you want me to also prep a 100-home lean scenario now so you can see the effect before you go read everything? That way you’ll have the full range when you come back.

You said:

Yes and maybe raise the rents 25% and then 50%? You do what you think is best. 

ChatGPT said:

Here’s how a 100-home “Lean Smültown” pencils out with different rent levels (all numbers include the baseline new-build premium of +8% baked in, then your extra % increase):

UnitsAvg SF/unitProject Cost ($M)Cost/UnitAnnual Debt ServiceRequired Avg Rent/moMarket Avg Rent/moDSCR @ Market Rents
10081018.65$186,460$999,504$1,593$1,270 (+0% over base)0.93×
10081018.65$186,460$999,504$1,593$1,564 (+25% over base)1.26×
10081018.65$186,460$999,504$1,593$1,857 (+50% over base)1.59×

What it means:

  • At current market +8% new build premium, 100 homes would almost break even on DSCR (0.93×).
  • At +25% above base, you clear the 1.25× DSCR target—lenders would like that.
  • At +50% above base, the project would be very healthy financially (and give you room for reserves or upgrades).

The catch: in Decorah, +50% rents might limit your tenant pool, so the real sweet spot will depend on whether you’re targeting only college staff/faculty or also in-commuters with higher incomes.

Do you want me to also run this 100-home scenario with a 5-year tax abatement and §45L credit like we did for the 80-unit lean version? That would drop the required rent in the early years. 

You said:

No. I have enough for now. This is so amazing. I’m still overwhelmed by you. Thank you and until next time…

ChatGPT said:

You’re welcome, and I’m really glad you’re excited about this!
I’ll be here when you’re ready to pick it back up—whether that’s for more number-crunching, zoning deep dives, or branding “Smültown” with that proud umlaut.

Until next time, enjoy reading through everything.

Mary, mother of truth 

Mary M. Coady nailed it in her letter to the Minnesota Star Tribune today:

We seem to make up words to not use the word lie. Just to be clear, fake news is a lie. Misinformation is a lie. Alternative facts are a lie. Revisionism is a lie. We teach our children to tell the truth and anything else is a lie. Or remember the word fib? I wish the media wouldn’t shy away from saying something is a lie. When someone says that Ukraine started the war, the media should emphatically state that is a lie and that Russia started the war in 2022!

From your lips to God’s ears, Ms. Coady. And so should we. She’s absolutely right. Call it. Every time. Anytime you hear yet another lie from the republicans in any context, say it out loud, “That is a lie.” Like a religious mantra. “That is a lie.”

How about we just go ahead and start a religion: Truthism. But with one moral: Tell the truth.* One Psalm: Lying hurts. One holiday: Every day is truth day. One hymnal: Any song with “the truth will set you free” in it. 

So someone says something, in front of you, or on the television, or in something you’re reading, and you know it to be untrue, say it out loud, “That is a lie.” And be ready with your sources and that is all you say, like a captured soldier who will give only name, rank and serial number, “I will email or text my sources.” Like Spock. 

Let’s just stop putting up with it. It’s a lie. It’s a lie! It’s a god-damned lie!  No. “That is a lie.” “That is a lie.” “That is a lie.”  

Our sacred sound and invocation. Our own om. 

Stop the money. Save the nation.

I do this every once in a while where I write something after some immersion in the bad news of the day. Note that the current bad news is worse than it’s ever been in my lifetime. But I start pontificating on the evil, greed, hate and blah, blah, blah. This time I’m quite a bit more freaked out but when I got done and reread it, I was struck by how silly it all is. Bestowing upon the world my opinions on whatever. Here’s what we need to do! Whatever. But it’s cathartic and so ultimately it’s worth it, right? And I kind of like this one. Here goes:

Everybody right now open an account on Bluesky. Good Americans can talk there. 

Completely shut down all of your other social media accounts –  X, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, etc. All of them. We’ll do this fast and we’ll do this right and you can get your accounts back. Grab your data, or start fresh. Do it now. 

Do not buy anything from any of those companies – purchase nothing on Amazon, close those accounts also, do not buy a Tesla, if you have one, enjoy it and drive it into the ground. Do not use Elon Musk’s satellite connections, nor any of his other companies, and those of you who do the science as astronomers and engineers and the like working for him, you’re smart! Get the fuck out of there! Anybody working for any of those companies, walk now.

Disrupt the activity of everything related to those same businesses. This of course includes Trump companies.  Whatever you can do. Good hackers, this especially means you. Blow our minds.

Yes, this will create hardship, but if we do this fast and we do this right, we’ll get through it easily and the old-fashioned way, taking care of one another, looking after our neighbors. We’re the good Americans, remember? We can take a little hardship. In fact, we can take a lot of hardship to save the nation – and ourselves, our families, our loved ones, our friends and coworkers and neighbors.

If we do this fast and we do this right, we can avoid violence of any kind. That being said, everyone be prepared to the best of your abilities. 

The only two things they understand are money and power, and they will stop at nothing to use their power to bring us to our knees and take all the money for themselves. They are doing it right now. Right in front of our eyes. We must immediately stop the flow of any money into their businesses.

Please pass this on to everyone you know. 

It’s like camping in comfort of your own bed

I don’t sleep well. I did when I drank, but that was more a passing out than going to sleep. And that went on for 40+ years. That freaks me out. I don’t even feel 40, mostly. But I don’t sleep well, and I’ve tried everything except any sort of sleeping medication – real ones, good ones. The ones that work. And that’s why I didn’t take em, because they work. I’ve taken many a drug in my time, but for whatever reason, I didn’t want to go there. Alcohol knocks you out, as I noted above, but you get those 7 hours of drinking leading up to it. Popping a pill and dropping off like boom is weird. It’s like the fancy people who always have proper meals and you stand at the sink wolfing down leftovers out of the to go containers. Maybe.

So, New Years Eve night before we were to go on a strict budget on January 1 I was on social media and got an ad for sheets that were able to be grounded and so ground you as you slept. Seriously. Here’s the ad. Okay, I can’t put the video up for some reason. Anyone know how to insert an Instagram ad into a blog? But found this one with the same guy. https://youtube.com/shorts/tdD0xP4040s?si=hT2Q90eQpP-4Z-bg

I thought, what the fuck? Even if it’s a bunch of hooey I get sheets, and I need sheets. But I do have to say that ad kicked ass. The guy talking is perfect, handsome, sciency but normal, and what he says and claims about this grounding business blew me away. While, of course, raising the beware internet scams flag. But I bought them and about two weeks ago they arrived. Well, they didn’t. What arrived was 9×12 padded envelope. Inside was a piece of sheet, I guess, about two feet wide and 8 feel long. And a cord that snaps onto the sheet with just the little round ground plug on the other end that I plugged into the nearest outlet. That’s perfect me, by the way. I didn’t bother to read the thing. I just went to the first item on their website, I suppose, and somewhere saw “sheet” and clicked buy. It was $99. Which was expensive even for a full set of sheets for a guy like me. I got ripped off, I figured and will forget to even try to return it. That’s the MO. I’ve got issues. 

This came also in the envelope. 

Feast your eyes on what this thing can do. These are some serious claims, although “Enhances detoxification processes” sounds a bit bullshitty. 

So, I plug in my slip and slide lookin grounded sheet, strip naked to get the whole effect and lie down on it. I immediately experience what feels like the energy in my body falling down toward the fabric. It was weird but it also felt really good like that meditation of feeling the weight of your body being pulled toward the floor. My jaw was tingling. 

All right, I figured it was me being all excited about it, some psychosomatic or placebo effect. So I got up thinking that it was for sleeping on anyway and walked away. Later in the day, I tried it again, and I got the same feelings. Still, though, placebo and for sleep. 

I slept that night. Much, much harder than I had for as long as I can remember. It was a feeling I remembered now but had forgotten. I dreamed again. I hadn’t dreamed in a very long time. I usually wake up a couple-three times at night and I only woke up once. Could this thing seriously be for real, was grounding in this way somehow able to grab hold of my circadian rhythms and get them dancing in unison? Do we have more than one circadian rhythm?

PLEASE NOTE I AM NOT SUGGESTING IN ANY WAY THAT THIS MAKES ANY SENSE TO ME AND I AM NOT SHILLING FOR THIS COMPANY. THERE ARE A MILLION OF THEM OUT THERE I GUESS GROUNDING PEOPLE THROUGHOUT THE LAND. THIS IS NOT A SPONSORED BLOG, NOR HAVE I HAD ANY CONTACT WITH ANYONE RELATED TO THE COMPANY, ALTHOUGH I’D LIKE TO MEET THE GUY IN THE VIDEO. I THINK HE’D BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST. 

It’s been a couple of weeks and it’s still working. I’m sleeping way better. And I can still feel the energy thing. But maybe it’s still psychosomatic or placebo. I don’t know. How can I know? But could something this simple have merit like this? Sitting right under our noses for all these many years. Just sleep on the ground, fool! I’ll bet cowboys slept well.

continuums/continuui?

Dichotomies. Black and white. One or the other. Except of course for the gray areas where everything we consider “black” or “white” actually resides. There’s no true black (completely and absolutely black) and no true white (completely and absolutely white), but a continuum of black to white and back again. But that’s confusing, right? So we’ll just talk black and white. 

Nope. Introvert/Extrovert, Asshole/Saint, Liberal/Conservative. Two “opposing” sides of anything are in fact the two ends of a continuum. They touch each other like the two sides of a coin. That’s why questions at the doctor have like eleven choices: agree, somewhat agree, just sort of agree, thinkin’ about agreeing, meh, I’m intrigued… 

Atheism/Religion. Even those who’d scream “There is a god!” or “There is no such thing as a god!” right into your face, spittle and all; within each of them, at the very least, there exists a seed that if watered properly through whatever experience or experiences will grow and lead them to think somehow otherwise. We all have the ability to learn, to change; and we can’t help but evolve. 

Enemy/Friend. From frenemies to mortal enemies; from ghosting someone to killing them. But even mortal enemies would come together if it were truly needed of them – like if two mortal enemies (I don’t know about you but I’m picturing medieval chainmail mortal enemies) had to jump into a lake to save an old woman in a sinking Oldsmobile. They’d do it! Although chainmail and ponds make for a dangerous combination.

Bad thoughts/Good thoughts. Maybe it’s like a bell curve continuum, so there’s a long, sort-of plateau in the middle, the middle ground, where our thoughts go from bad to good, but the closer you get to one or the other the faster you fall into it. Or maybe not.

Remember the continuum. No one is all good. No one is all bad. 

Change

I read a review of a book by Brad Stulberg called “Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything is Changing – Including You.” It talked about the concept of allostasis, or the idea that “rather than being rigid, our healthy baseline is a moving target.” The idea of impermanence or that everything is always changing and we need to go with the flow – rather than try to push the river. The concept was developed by a neuroscientist and a biologist.

It’s a very old concept, actually, but the two doctors no doubt look much deeper. The only constant is change. We are different people from on second to the next, and on a cellular level, completely different human beings every seven years through cell regeneration. Plus, everything is essentially alive, and changing, through the energy that courses through it and holds it together. We don’t need to move mountains because they are already moving.

But we naturally fight change – it goes back to when everything could be dangerous and so we tended toward the status quo, hoping to be around those we know and what we know. Change, back then, was a tiger wandering into camp.

So, it’s really hard to accept change, for many of us. And the older we get, the more set in our ways we become, and so acceptance can be even more of a challenge. Similar to how the more time we spend alone, the more set in our ways we become. We are used to the same people (very few in this case) and our own stuff and we just don’t want the world to evolve or progress. We like it just how it is. But the reality is there’s ultimately nothing we can do about it. It’s going to change and we can either keep fighting it or work with it.

He goes on: “Adopting an allostatic outlook acknowledges that the goal of mature adulthood is not to avoid, fight or try to control change, but rather to skillfully engage with it. … you come to view change and disorder not as something that happens to you but as something that you are working with.”

I remember a friend who knew some Kung Fu introduced me to the concept of using your opponents aggression against them. So, if you attack me, rather than push back, I move with you in the direction you’re going, gain control, and Kung Fu your butt. That’s the same concept in a way – going with the flow.

Mr. Stulberg writes: “To be flexible is to consciously respond to altered circumstances or conditions, to adapt and bend easily without breaking, to evolve grow and even change your mind.” Ain’t that the truth?

Eddie Izzard

The first trans person I ever met was in about 1976 at Thomas Beach on Lake Calhoun in Minneapolis. This was all very new to me at 13. I was sitting on the curb waiting for my friend, Ben, to come back from wherever the hell he was. Up walked this very tall woman in a bikini but covered with a beach jacket of sorts. She sat down on a picnic table and looked out over the lake. Then she looked over at me, staring right back at her. She smiled.

Lovely day, she said.

It’s hot.

One day you’ll grow up into something hot, son.

I’m sure I blushed, but it was summer in 1976 and I spent every waking hour outside, sans sunscreen, but soaked in Coppertone oil, so I was already some dark shade of reddish brown that probably hid said blushing. Someone shouted and she stood up and waved. Enjoy the beach, she said and ran toward the person. I’d heard about “cross dressing” and some talk of people transitioning through surgery and hormones. I believe they had to go to The Netherlands or somewhere to get it done. But now I saw one and talked to one. That blew my mind.

Somewhat related, I was reading an article yesterday about Eddie Izzard and remembering when Ms. Izzard was in the news for coming out as transgender way back in the mid-eighties. She’s been busy, real busy over the last 40+ years as a comedian, stage and screen actor, pilot, very active in LGBTQ issues, and is now again running for Parliament in the UK. She’s also a crack athlete and has run hundreds of marathons (more than a hundred for charities). Here’s what really blew me away:

“It’s not just the sheer number of marathons that Izzard has run that’s impressive: it’s that she runs them one after another. In 2009, she ran 43 marathons in 51 days. In 2016, she ran 27 in 27 days. And in 2021, she ran 32 in 31 days.”

Got that? She ran 32 marathons in 31 days. Damn.

#eddieizzard